The Role Of A Woman

There have been many talks recently of equal rights. You are probably aware of the stimulating topic that is now taking over Jamaica. There has, for year been a conflict between gender roles and traditional views are being trampled by modern thoughts. Women want to be treated the same way men are treated, but should they? What is the role of women in the family and in society? The trending paradigm shift will certainly tear the fabric of our culture. Is this benifical or detrimental?

I believe in equity, not equality. Women and men are not equals and should never be treated as such. In certain contexts I believe both genders should be treated equally such as, equal pay for equal work or promotions. I don’t believe that is a problem in Jamaica as we have more female managers then males and significanly more females achieving tertiary education. If we should treat everyone equally, it would require everyone to be of the same gender, colour, height, weight, age, race and physical abilities. This is certainly unachievable! Imagine a physically challenged man in a wheelchair trying to get up a staircase vs a healthy man, who would you assist? Clearly the disabled. That, is equity.

Why should I open a door for a woman when she can clearly open it for herself? Why should I pull out a chair? Are her hands numb? Why should I pick up the bill at a restaurant? How do you feel after reading those questions? Probably you assume that I am not a gentleman. I would assume the same. I actually believe that women should be treated specially, as they are deserving of such. But in the cry for equality, shouldn’t a woman open the door for me too? Why plea for something only when it benefits you? The point is we are different and should be treated accordingly, within the confines of the law.

So what is the role of a woman?

In the begining God created the Heavens and the Earth…. He created man, then for him a ‘help meat’. So women are created to support, care, nurture, while men lead, love and protect them. If we look at some scriptures in the bible as well, it definately supports this point. A woman may never usurp authority over a man a man should ( as much as possible) be the leader. Idealy, In a relationship, or organization, there should be a leader and a support/support team. The Jamaican proverb states that “two bull can’t live inna one pen”. This means that if two leaders are in the same space there will be conflicts. In a relationship, given the man is fulfilling his duties, a woman should submit herself to him. Now women will argue that ‘he is not fullfilling his duties’ and in her own way try to define his duties. Such women must be taken to dinner, and left there with the bill, never to be called again… I kid.

In the adventist church, women cannot be ordained pastors.
Women can be leaders where men fail to lead, but as long as there are fully capable men, let the gender roles remain.

It is also important to note that these gender roles are biological, not self-identified. Bruce/Catlin Jenner, is a man, and should be treated as such!

– Aldeam Facey 2017

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Cash Pot: A Game Of Chance Or Guaranteed Winnings For The Dreamers?

So there I was, driving in a taxi from Bog Walk to Spanish Town. It was about 11pm and I couldn’t find any legal taxis available. The first robot taxi that came my way was my ticket back to town. It appeared to be an old Toyota wagon, still running through the grace of God. The doors were handless , windowless and paintless. The car squeaked at every rotation of the wheel. Upon entry I was slapped in the face woth the smell of some high grade weed.
“Spanish Town ?”

“Den nuh muss Spanish Town mi a guh yow, nuh inna nuh hitchin enuh”

I immediately refrained from ‘hitchin’ and got in the vehicle. With a stranger in his car he found it necessary to make acquaintance. He initiated the conversation with a dream he had the night before. He believed the Gods have spoken to him through a vision, giving him secret codes for the Cash Pot numbers. It started with him riding a bicycle then parking it near his house. It was then stolen. He was then teleported into a taxi which was driving up a hill where the driver decided to park but didn’t pull up his hand brakes. The car rolled away and fell into a nearby ravine. I responded with ‘mmh’ at the end of every sentence to indicate that I was listening. He was so excited to tell me his story but all I could think about was his consumption of white rice after 7pm the night before. In Jamaica it is said that one will have dreams if such meals are consumed after 7pm. I am yet to verify.
The driver was so convinced that he should buy ‘black man’ and ‘thief’. Whether or not his vision would result in the successful selection of a Cash Pot number would depend on how well he interpreted the codes in his vision. But the vision was infallible. I provided no council, nor did I aim to cash in on the potential winnings. As a visionless man with a very small pocket, such a potentially financially advancing vision is just what I needed. I would also need a little faith in the method as I did not purchase the guaranteed winning numbers.

Cash Pot is a gambling game popular in Jamaica where numbers drawn represents an item person or place. It is based on the games of chance known as ‘Drop Pan’. You may place a bet on 1 number with a minimum of $10 Jamaican or up to $500 Jamaican. There are 36 numbers (1-36) making the odds of winning 36:1. winners receive 26 times the amount of the bet placed. $100 can win $2600. ‘Drawing of numbers take place five times per day at 8:30am, 10:30a.m., 1pm, 5pm and 8:25pm from the first day of the week to the seventh. Players win when the number they selected matches the randomly selected number chosen at the live Television Jamaica and IRIE FM radio station draw daily.’ (Supremeventures.com).

Each number has several meanings, below is a list of all the main meanings of the numbers:

#1 – duppy
#2 – small fire, batty
#3 – dead
#4 – egg, sex
#5 – thief
#6 – strong man, stone
#7 – married woman, hog
#8 – belly, hole
#9 – old man, old dead
#10 – small house, crib, coop
#11 – boy, two legs
#12 – head
#13 – police, black woman
#14 – mouth
#15 – running, swimming
#16 – young girl
#17 – old dead, chiney man
#18 – doctor, doctor bird, doctor fish
#19 – silver money
#20 – sick
#21 – bad girl
#22 – white woman
#23 – black man
#24 – fresh water
#25 – john crow
#26 – white man
#27 – big fire
#28 – fowl
#29 – parson
#30 – fish
#31 – lizard, long stick, penis
#32 – gold
#33 – big house
#34 – baby
#35 – goat, vagina
#36 – old woman

The taxi driver did not win the Cash Pot draw. Could it be a misinterpretation of the vision?

 

– Aldeam Facey 2017

To Beat Or Not To Beat

It was a cold dark night, full of mischief that evades memory. I stepped through the gate like I was the ‘man a yaad’, only to be greeted by the lady of the house. She was clearly angry about what I had done. Back in those days we kids didn’t have smart phones, so I doubt it had anything to do with nude videos on Instagram or voice notes telling her how good it taste. But whatever transpired that night was whipped from memory as the lady of the house made her inquiries. We were still at the gate, lack of preparation this time around prevented her from having the special leather belt with the names ‘Aldeam’ and ‘Everlee Facey’ etched on its buckle. As she held my shirt, I could see her silhouette looking left and right for an instrument of correction. Knowing this I made attempt to escape the prison of her arms. But like the love of God ‘neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature…’ was able to separate us. As I struggled to be free I recognized the strength of a woman. She finally found a substantial element capable of forgiving sins, purifying and creating a new creature. A loose chain hanging from the gate became less an item of security, less an element of aesthetics but became a whip, a lie detector test and a rod of correction. As the chains of Olympus fell squarely on my back, ‘wooii’ was my cry. All secrets were revealed, all apologies made and the lord was remembered.

‘Weh yuh did deh?’

Chains…

‘Look from when mi a call yuh?’

Chains…

‘Dweet again!’

Chains…

With each question tied to a swing to encourage a speedy response, confirmation was guaranteed. The session was probably two minutes long, but it felt like an hour. All I know for sure, is that whatever I did, was never repeated.

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Memories of my most noteworthy spankings floated around my mind as the video of a young girl being spanked by her mother was echoed by the Jamaican media. Naturally people took sides; some believed the mother (who has since been arrested) was too extreme and was guilty of child abuse, others thought nothing was wrong. It may seem contrary to the truth, but based on my experience, such expressions of anger by a mother, when her child misbehaves,comes from a heart of pure love. She wants what is best for her child, she doesn’t want her daughter to make the same mistakes she did. At least that is what I believe. Our culture is supported by a large number of people who believe they should never ‘spare the rod and spoil the child”. Majority of the Population are Christians and as a child I often hear the following text used to justify spankings:

“Proverbs 13: 24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” (KJV).

There are many other methods of punishing children for their misconduct such as removing privileges. In the context of rural Jamaica, where such privileges were initially nonexistent  that may not be the best option. I don’t believe there is anything wrong with spanking, majority of the concerns regarding the recent video was the mothers use of the machete. Now clearly, this mother knew what she was doing, clearly she is an experienced machete wielder. No dogs or children were chopped and as in my case, that was probably the closest ‘rod of correction’ she could find. In any case, I disagree with the use of a machete as it is a ‘high risk’ choice but I completely support spanking!

 

-Aldeam Facey 2017