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Interdenominational Relationships: Can They Work?

When I was young, I had many interactions with young ladies of differing denominations, though extremely shy. But that was then, back in the days when I was a little handsome, when my charm preceded my corny wit, when I had many reasons to smile, when all was well with the world.

Then, I was very strong, I did not take advantage of the many opportunities that presented themselves, I was a fairly good ‘youte’. I was getting old and I thought it was time to find a close association with a female, just one female, the way it is supposed to be. I approached who would become my very first girlfriend. I was Seventh Day Adventist, she was a Sunday worshiper. We had many discussions about religion, the day we should set aside for holy time, what not eat and many more. Though we disagreed on many topics we had a good relationship, one that did not violate any commands. I am not sure why we parted but we did. We are friends now.

It is very interesting to note that my ex stopped eating pork
It is very interesting to note that my ex stopped eating pork

The primary difference between the Seventh day Adventist group and the other denominations is that we believe in the Sabbath day. When God made the world he rested on the 7th day which is Friday sunset to Saturday sunset. He blessed the day and set it aside for rest and worship. This commandment includes the household as even your servants are required to rest. Read Exodus 20: 8-11.

My next relationship started years later with a young lady affiliated with the Apostolic group and Jah know star, ashalama shalama shalama! We had a very interesting relationship. Firstly I must say that she was hands down the sexiest woman I had ever seen! Neglecting the fact that she had more curves that the Bog Walk Gorge, while with her my eyes never strayed. I was completely satisfied with her and her happiness was my primary concern. Our entire relationship was one single conversation, that never ended. quite possibly, we were too attached to each other, but I didn’t mind. I’m not an emotional guy, a macho beast is expressed in my phenotype and genotype, but I can honestly say I was deeply in love with this one. I believed we would eventually get married as we had no significant problems. We discussed differences in religion and I must say she was coming around to the truth but wanted to avoid what she called ‘apostasy’. The most significant issue was whether to raise our children as Adventist or wrong otherwise. I was so serious about that relationship that I had a discussion with my pastor regarding my intention to marry this lady one day. That’s when I found out Seventh day Adventist pastors cannot marry interdenominational couples.
Long story extremely short, we parted for a reason that had nothing to do with religious beliefs.

I thereafter I found that most of the women I date are not Adventist and in all cases, though very brief the interactions, we never had a significant problem with beliefs. I’ve only dated a few Adventists, awesome ladies, but again they never worked.

There is the question of whether or not you and an interdenominational partner are “equally yoked”. Obviously, where beliefs are concerned you would not be, but the same may be true for a partner who is of the same denominational group! If your partner is not pulling you away from your faith in any way, there shouldn’t be much of an issue. Remember, the possibility exist that your wife or husband of the same denomination can change their beliefs post marriage. Is that enough reason for an annulment?  One must consider that differences in beliefs vary even to the individual level.

Conclusion

Though variety is the spice of life, the basis of any relationship is common ground. As such it is better to be with someone with whom you share similar beliefs. My advice would be for you to aim for a relationship with an individual who shares your beliefs. However, happiness is a critical relationship trait that must be satisfied. What if no one with whom you share the same belief makes you happy? What if no one is interested or available? If happiness can only be found elsewhere and you are able to live with differences in beliefs, then by all means, pursue happiness.
An interdenominational relationship can work, but it requires more work.

– Aldeam Facey 2015

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Why We Believe What We Believe

Over the years I have noticed that humans tend to accept beliefs which justify their lifestyles. This is contrasting to adjusting ones lifestyle to conform to written laws or truths, the basis of Christianity. It is surprising however, that many Christian denominations also choose to believe based on lifestyle instead of the contrary. All this is based on the fact that we all want to be accepted, firstly by ourselves, we want to be comfortable, minimize the guilt of our consciences, which is totally dependent on one’s belief.

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Look at it from a more practical point of view, homosexuals tend to be atheist, there is no such thing as a Christian gay. Pentecostal, Baptist and so on tend to ignore Leviticus 11, Seventh day Adventist are skewed towards accepting a more republican society.

Can ones belief be changed? Why do we initially believe what we believe?

Our young minds are easily influenced by those within close proximity, especially those who are older. As children we mindlessly accept the beliefs of our parents or guardians, these beliefs seldom change as we grow older. When they do change, it is the influence of experience and or research which is the cause of this change. If I was born a Jew, it is likely I’d be a Jew right now. Likewise if I was born in another church, or born in a family of atheists it is more likely that I would be apart of whatever group I was initially associated with.

But what is the truth?

I went on a quest to find the truth for myself. I was born being told that the Bible is true, that we must obey they laws, that we were made by God. Do I simply swallow the bread placed in my mouth? Or do I make attempt to verify? Not everything is known and research will continue until God comes. After studying the history of the Bible and how the books were compiled I concluded that it was as close to truth as any book we humans have available. So if this book is true, and in it lies instructions, it is my duty to obey. It is your duty as an intelligent human being to find the truth for yourself instead of mindlessly living without purpose. Based on my personal assessments the Seventh Day Adventist message is not flawed as it is based on the Bible, every part of it. Not one section is ignored even if it’s restrictions are not desired.

-Aldeam Facey 2015

Close Your Doors: The Jehovah’s Witnesses are Coming!

Slowly and humbly they walk towards your house, fully equipped with the resources needed to challenge, to attack, to convert or to aggravate. Looking towards you they present a pleasant smile, you know they are coming for you, to take you out of ‘darkness’ into their everlasting light. A light so blinding you may have to turn your face away. Having such sensitive eyes you are compelled to run inside, close the doors and shade yourself. Am I the only guilty one? Am I the disrespectful one? Do you open doors, inviting entry as the Saints approach?

Witnessing

I’ve had several encounters with the witnesses, they always seem to catch me in the act. I cannot claim to be innocent, my claims will not stand up in court on the judgment day.

As a Christian myself I admire the persistence of the Witnesses. They are working very hard to secure a space in the book of life when the roll is called up yonder. If every Christian denomination was as determined, Jamaica would be the land of the converted.

My issues with this faithful group, are the doctrines they proclaim to be gospel. We worship the same God, love our brothers just the same but why make such a significant effort to convert others if you believe the final train can only accommodate 144,000? I don’t believe God has a ‘loada man’ who will force us to lap-up.It is very interesting to note that based on their beliefs the “Kingdom” cannot accommodate “Hall” of its members given that the membership of the church far exceeds 144,000.

Over the past 7 months I had two relatives admitted to the hospital who both needed blood transfusions during surgery. On two occasions I donated what appears to be a gallon of blood. I may have exaggerated just a bit there. But accepting their beliefs would mean allowing my relatives to wait a longer period for donations and who knows what could have happened. Would that be acceptable? And how do you, using scriptures, justify the act?

They alway seem happy to have an argument with me about various topics. I used to take note of the shuffling of persons as they approached and as a young teen it piqued my curiosity and I then engaged in so many discussions. In certain areas our beliefs are very contrasting, I believe in the trinity, one “God head” while they believe Jesus is the archangel and the holy spirit is simply a force of God. Whenever the issue of the Sabbath is mentioned our conversations tend to head towards a long debate. I believe in the 7th day Sabbath according to Exodus 20:8 and regarding this topic I am like a donkey, forced to the brook, I will not drink! I always leave them walking away with tails between legs as they fail to convert another one.

However, I really appreciate and admire the fact that all members of the church are ministers and they all work together to win souls for the kingdom. Imagine what the world would be like if other churches adopted this principle. Everyone is treated as one, no classes, no segregation of races and no discrimination, well, except for homosexuality which is not supported by the group.

It is very interesting to learn the varying beliefs based on the ‘same’ bible but I know one day all truth will be revealed, what an exciting day that will be. Everyone should have the right to choose, and if you believe the Jehovah’s Witnesses way is the way to go, feel free to leave all your doors open. As for me, I believe now I have learned enough to know that it will never be my path to tread.

– Aldeam Facey